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Depression & arguments, trust after betrayal

By Mary Jo Rapini
Published  April 28, 2016 2:28pm CDT
MaryJo Rapini
FOX 26 Houston

HOUSTON (FOX 26) - Dear Mary Jo,

My husband and I are in our mid 50’s and have been arguing over silly things. He seems on “edge” all the time. Can you help?

Thanks,
Lisa

Dear Lisa,
It could be many things making him feel more stressed. It may be work related, health related or just feeling overwhelmed. But, it would be a good idea, since it is more sudden, to talk to him about it. If he becomes defensive or withdraws, mention the fact that your arguments have increased and it concern you. Depression is the biggest culprit and it happens more frequently with couples over fifty. Depression is sneaky and sometimes the only symptom is an increase in arguments. Offer to go to the doctor with him. Some illnesses present with depression or irritability, and it’s better to check possible health issues first. You’ve been with him for a long time, so take it seriously when you see a change in behavior that concerns you. Teamwork is key. 

Dear Mary Jo,

I’m wondering in a relationship when you go through an episode of mistrust how you can recover?

Thanks,
Rachel