SANTA FE, Texas - One of the lessons of team sports is nobody can do it all on their own, especially when it comes to surviving the kind of trauma Mateo Flores has.
"I'm worried that the same situation is going to happen here if people don't look for or get help," Flores said.
Same situation he's talking about is what's happening in Parkland, Florida.
In the last week, two students, a 16-year-old boy and recent graduate Sydney Aiello, took their own lives. Sources close to both of them say they were experiencing survivors’ guilt.
Flores is not the only one concerned that as the anniversary of the shooting approaches, some Santa Fe student may do the same.
At the Santa Fe Resilience Center, peer counselors like Brianna Keel are bracing for an influx focus of traumatized students suffering from survivors’ guilt.
"I feel that weight heavily on the people of Santa Fe, being such a close knit community. People talk about that and ink about the 'what-ifs,'" she said.
And while the focus tends to be on the first anniversary of a traumatic event, it can actually get worse with the passage of time.
"We call that the ‘Tuesday Morning Effect,’ where everyone kind of goes away when actually a year or two later, the hardest emotions can hit," said Wendy Norris with the center.
She says there are things parents can look out for:
- A previous health diagnosis.
- Alcohol or drug use.
-Mood swings beyond normal.
-Any changes from normal behavior.
-Talking about suicide.
-Passive comments like "I wish I weren't around."
-History of past attempts.
Flores says if you recognize these symptoms in yourself, gather your strength and get help.
"That's something I’ve had to deal with. Looking weak. It's really not looking weak. You’re just trying to help yourself and get better. That makes you stronger in turn," Flores said.
The number for the Santa Fe Resiliency Center is (409) 218-7129.